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Parentification - Say what?
What is it?
Parentification is when a child is regularly expected to take on responsibilities - practical, emotional, or both - that are normally reserved for adults. This can mean caring for siblings, being self-responsible for your needs, managing household tasks, or providing emotional support to a parent.
The roles of parent and child are reversed, so the child becomes the caregiver or emotional anchor, often at the expense of their own needs and childhood.
How It Shows Up
This role reversal can disrupt healthy development and lead to long-term challenges with boundaries, self-worth, self-awareness, self-care, nervous system regulation, awkwardness, anxiety, masking, and relationships.
You may be controlling, a perfectionist, have trouble asking for or receiving help. You may be an over or under achiever, and have trouble trusting or bond deeply fast.
Because your early experiences were not traditional, it may feel challenging to feel like you belong or know the cues. You may hear phrases about being too much or not enough - and you may believe them.
Who am I, Really?
So much of your nervous system was designed around your role, and being safe, good.
What needs and opinions, preferences and experiences were safe or not safe?
Is it good to think about others over yourself? Is it defiant to do this?
What are your favorite colors, textures, foods, music, fabrics, smells, down-time activities, social connections... All your senses and movements have information for you, clues of who am I now?
De-parentifying
Focus on a specific challenge, healing need, goal, or spiritual direction.
While “parentification” is accurate, it can sound clinical or distant. What you may have found yourself thinking, feeling, saying is I am/was “The childhood caretaker” (or “childhood caregiving”) “The grown-up kid” “The family fixer” “Role-reversed childhood” “The little adult” “Early responsibility overload” “Growing up too soon” "Never got to be a kid"
Many of us grew up as the family fixer, the one who soothed, solved, or stepped in when others couldn’t.
This early responsibility can shape how we care for ourselves and others now.
Engage your soulful lens to explore, define your path, learn new skills.
Heal the mother or father wound, have inner conversations with yourSelf, play, feel, explore, trust - and my personal favorite?
Inviting Wonder and Joy
With expert guidance and my signature methods, you will have a solid plan, notable shifts, and deeper understanding.
Anchor peace in your life.
Two Sides of the Coin
Wound
Strength
- Relationship Challenges
- Low Self Awareness
- Tough self-talk
- Difficulty asking for or accepting help
- Laser Vision and Instinctual B.S. Meter
- Intuitive Problem Solver
- Ease of Reading People
- Very Resourceful
We all have a place of belonging, purpose, and inner-wisdom. Let's get those places talking with the rest of our mind, body, spirit.
Befriend your wholeness, your soulful voice that knows the way.
What is Best for You?
Discovery Path
Choose Your Own Adventure
Whether you choose the digital guidebooks, classes, and other goodies I have created for you to use in your own private ways, or you choose direct sessions with me and other interactive options, trust yourself to play and know what you most need.
Sliding scale and HSA, FSA payments are always available. Let me know if this is what is helpful to you.
Feel, sense, imagine living from your core of peace. No matter what.
How would you be different?
How would things shift?
Reconnect. Ripple. Thrive.
It is easier than you may think.
Here's the Hokey Pokey
and we turn our Selves around...
Committing to self-care and time for your growth, healing, goals makes the world a better place.
We share the commitment and lean into a relationship of trust, building on each interaction with each other in a way that brings tangible shifts.
I am so invested in meeting you where you are and supporting you to where you are seeking to evolve. While therapy is excellent, sometimes a very focussed, short term sequence of meetings and experiences can be most effective.
Let's co-create a great space for those times of self discovery, freedom, healing, joy.
...that's what it's all about!
Please know, I offer a sliding scale for my services if needed. I can accept FSA/HSA payments. Also, some insurances have Wellness Wallet reimbursements that I can provide an invoice for if applicable. These services are supportive, guiding, inspiring and not a replacement for other types of care that may be appropriate for your needs: legal, medical, financial, etc. Please always be mindful of your big picture and care for yourself well.
There is always a way.
Be bold. Be curious. Be yourself. Be Connected. Be kind. Be. Be your truth.
