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Parentification - Say what?
When Childhood Means Growing Up Fast
Did you find yourself “adulting” before you even hit your teens? Maybe you were the one who soothed others, solved problems, or simply took care of yourself - because you had to.
If you learned to be self-reliant and responsible before you were ready, you may have experienced parentification.
Parentification is when a child steps into adult shoes: caring for siblings, managing the household, or even tending to a parent’s needs. Sometimes, it means quietly figuring out life on your own, long before you should have had to.
Two Sides of the Coin
Let's peek at the lifelong intense training you've had:
Wound
Strength
- Relationship Challenges: controlling, insecurities
- Low Self Awareness: what do I even need or like?
- Tough self-talk: perfectionism, over-compensating
- Difficulty asking for or accepting help: trust issues
- Laser Vision and Instinctual B.S. Meter: you just KNOW
- Intuitive Problem Solver: fast, idea generator
- Ease of Reading People: you know what's needed
- Very Resourceful: like a wizard!
Those early lessons in independence and responsibility often shape us in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.
Early self-reliance can echo across every area of your life.
Why Did This Happen?
At different points in life we may wonder about this Why? Parentification often grows out of family stress, illness, or patterns passed down through generations. It’s not your fault. We also don't have to dismiss our wounds with phrases like, "They did the best they could with what they had," or "If only I (x) it would've been better."
This is also not your identity or life purpose. You did what you needed to do to get through - and those strengths are real.
But you don’t have to carry it alone anymore.
Now What?
What Healing Can Look Like
Healing is about coming home to yourself. It’s learning that your needs matter, too. It’s discovering that you can be strong and still let others in. It’s giving yourself permission to play, rest, and receive.
Together we can explore:
- How your early experiences shaped your strengths and struggles
- New ways to care for yourself, and know yourself - with kindness, curiosity, and self awareness, and less harsh self-talk
- How to invite more ease, connection, and joy into your life
- Permission to PLAY! It's not all work you know! I help you lean in and make this growth easy, authentic, interesting.
How I Can Support You
I offer a warm, non-judgmental space to untangle these old patterns and nurture the parts of you that had to grow up too fast.
My services include:
- Compassionate, individualized sessions for adults who carried too much, too soon
- Gentle, meaningful inner child and self-compassion explorations
- Support for building relationships where you feel seen and supported
- Workshops and resources for breaking old cycles and creating new possibilities
Abandonment, Estrangement, Boundaries, Freedom
Sometimes, the journey through parentification includes experiences of abandonment or estrangement, whether by choice or circumstance, your own or someone else’s. These breaks in connection can leave deep, quiet aches. If this is part of your story, know that your feelings are real and worthy of care. Healing is possible, even when relationships are distant or lost, and you are not alone in navigating this path.
We all have a place of belonging, purpose, and inner-wisdom. Let's get those places talking with the rest of our mind, body, spirit.
Befriend your wholeness, your soulful voice that knows the way.
We can learn to ask: Who am I, Really?
So much of your nervous system was designed around your role, and being safe, being good. Because your early experiences were not traditional, it may feel challenging to feel like you belong or know the cues. You may hear phrases about being too much or not enough - and you may believe them.
But who are you really?
What is Best for You?
De-parentifying (now I'm making up words)
Focus on a specific challenge, healing need, goal, or spiritual direction.
Engage your soulful lens to explore, define your path, learn new skills.
Heal the mother or father wound, have inner conversations with yourSelf, play, feel, explore, trust - and my personal favorite?
Invite More Wonder and Joy
Discovery Path
Ask me Anything
Choose Your Own Adventure
With expert guidance and my signature methods, you will have a solid plan, notable shifts, and deeper understanding.
Whether you choose the digital guidebooks, classes, and other goodies I have created for you to use in your own private ways, or you choose direct sessions with me and other interactive options, trust yourself to play and know what you most need.
Sliding scale and HSA, FSA payments are always available. Let me know if this is what is helpful to you.
Let’s walk this path together, toward a life that feels lighter, brighter, and truly your own.
If any of this feels familiar, you don’t have to do it all on your own anymore.
There’s room for you to be cared for, too.
Feel, sense, imagine living from your core of peace. No matter what.
How would you be different?
How would things shift?
Reconnect. Ripple. Thrive.
It is easier than you may think.
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I'm Dr. Birdi Sinclair. As we interact with each other, we lean into a relationship of trust, building on each experience we share toward the tangible shifts within yourself and your life that you most wish for.
I am so invested in meeting you where you are and supporting you to where you are evolving.
While counseling is excellent (and an option for us), sometimes a very focussed, short term sequence of meetings and experiences can be most effective.
Let's co-create a great space for those times of self discovery, freedom, healing, joy.
...that's what it's all about!
Please know, I offer a sliding scale for my services if needed. I can accept FSA/HSA payments. Also, some insurances have Wellness Wallet reimbursements that I can provide an invoice for if applicable. These services are supportive, guiding, inspiring and not a replacement for other types of care that may be appropriate for your needs: legal, medical, financial, etc. Please always be mindful of your big picture and care for yourself well.
There is always a way.
Be bold. Be curious. Be yourself. Be Connected. Be kind. Be. Be your truth.
