I left home when I was 9.
✓ I was not rebellious. I was betrayed, hurt, and searching for better. I trusted my inner Self.
✓ I was not a problem. I knew better than what I was expected to accept. I lived this truth in the best ways I knew how at the time.
✓ I was not safe. It was worth the known and unknown risks for me to take my chances. I stand by my path even now. I learned how to create a safe village, including within me.
✓ I was not lazy or looking for an easy out. Nothing about this was easy. I rejected these judgments and comforted, bore witness, and advocated for others.
We can't always know who to trust for certain.
Sometimes we don't even trust ourselves.
We can feel like a stranger, even in our own bodies.
It's all an adventure. Remember those choose your adventure books?
If you hear a noise, and you want to investigate, go to page 36.
If you stay in bed, go to page 18.
We can choose where to set our gaze in each moment, what to believe, how to release from the traps of shame or blame,
and be still enough to connect with our inner knowing.
Redefine trust. Be at home always.
First step is to allow what is hard to be hard. Then learn to pause and find the beauty that is always within every moment, every circumstance,
even the yuckiest ones.
✓ The answer is not OUT THERE.
✓ We are never as alone as we may feel.
✓ Like Mr. Roger's mom said, "In chaos, when you're scared, look for the helpers."
✓ Home is a condition of the spirit. It is within us to experience for better or worse. WE decide.
Pausing to ask, "Who am I?" in this moment situation, relationship... connects you to your values, and opens your vision, your heart for meaningful clarity and surprising community.
Being Free in choices, creations, relationships, in grief and hardship is not only possible, it's our biological design. We know, through the pauses, we belong.
This is unconditionally yours to remember. It's not easy. What inner voices or messages from society do you need to challenge and shed?
You can re-learn to Live from Love not Fear, embracing wonder, awe, self- trust, and choice. Dance with this in your mind, body, spirit.
If you re-learn curiosity and to ask on a soulful level, “Who am I now?” you become grounded in a clearer view of self, others, next steps.
A young, new social worker in a group home I was placed in for a short time, gave me 2 books: one by Kahlil Gibran and the other a small book right from her purse by Edgar Cayce.
Somehow, I still have them. I called myself Gideon then (I don't know why) and she addressed me by that name in what she wrote on the inside of the cover.
I can't know what she and others saw in me, but she is an example of the surprising care, of the soulful witnessing I would experience often as one who left home so early.
Were all of my experiences nice? Of course not. But these moments bring us a resiliency, an elasticity to our world view and sense of self.
Where we set our gaze is what we see, right?
They helped me understand the sense of home I knew within me - connecting me with my values and my unique design. They grew my sense of belonging, spiritually, within the planet and with others. They fostered my confidence to create a village wherever I was, and how to ask for help of my Self or from others.
They saw me without the judgment so many others held simply by my circumstances
and their own biases.
They comforted and taught me
as I held them close within my mind-heart
through my travels
then and now.
Their witness and care kept me on a path of self-knowing, wonder, and belonging so that I felt whole, engaged, and possible.
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I am Rev. Dr. Birdi Sinclair. All of my training and experience in healthcare, spirituality, and sociology has combined to be with you in a challenging time of life.
My doctorate is in sacred dialogue, activism, and engagement. I specialize in caring for your grief, relationships, and cultivation of wholeness through emphasizing self-care, spiritual exploration, and the arts. Balancing psychology, neurobiology, sociology, spirituality, and the arts creates a soulful thread for us to follow.
My passion is to connect you with yourself, with others, and the world for your own sense of awe, belonging, and personal power.
For over 30 years, I speak, teach, present nationally, even hosting my own TV show for 3 years. What a hoot! The focus was on the power of one.
Training businesses and organizations in LGBTQA+ topics are near to my heart, as are facilitating safe spaces for healthcare leaders and veterinarians. This gives a space for their grief, relationship, and self-care needs that are specific to their professions.
I live, paint, write, kayak, ride bikes, and drink tea in NH with my sweetheart of over 20 years and our pup - who we suspect is part baby dragon.
We go camping every chance we get.
My kids are grown and flown.
It's all pretty neato.
Be bold. Be curious. Be yourself. Be connected. Be kind.
Be. Be your truth.